Dissolution:
About your away trip: I am sooooo happy for you and how great you did. Not just the weight loss; but the inevitable family questions from folks you haven't seen in a while ( the dialogue between you and the Cousin is priceless!) and having to field that type of thing.
Your prep and ingenuity on the trip is commendable too. And that you passed up the donuts and the "button pushing" also meritorious! Well, with a bit of an argument after -- but gee that was clearly an emotional eating trigger for you, and chances that those emotions would boil over about 100% likely.
Anyway, to be rewarded with that kind of scale reading at the end of it all -- was clearly deserved! High five buddy - way to go!!!
About the family issues: No one thinks you are being whiny and many have had similar experiences and are willing to say what worked for them, in hopes that something might be useable in your situation. I think you're making wise decisions like the home gym and other approaches -- so you recognize the big ways you can avoid increasing your wife's anxiety. I am pulling for both of you, with the realization that your putting your issues here helps diffuse some of your discomfort and some of our own too.
And because of your honesty here, I am looking at how my choice to do this is actually changing my relationship to everything I know. I kind of said I was doing it to reduce my global impact hugely and resolve my health issues -- but it never occurred to me that there would also be significant and frightening emotional upheavals in my most valuable human relationships.
As someone who has always thought I had a lid on my emotions, I am finding myself completely unglued internally by folks I love denigrating my intentions and commitment and in many of their cases choosing to feed their serious and life threatening illnesses instead of their good health. I now see these changes we have made have life and death implications and can make us reevaluate what love really is -- recounting and evaluating these challenges and figuring out how to take the next right step in each instance -- can't possibly be reduced to "sorry for the whining".
I think we all have to acknowledge and respect that for some of us, it's possibly the hardest thing we've ever done. That sharing the frustration, asking for an ear and receiving help from those who have been down this road before us -- is our best effort to do all we can to get us and our friends and family through this change intact. So I say thanks for speaking the truth, but please Dissolution, don't think it's whining when you do so
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